Intimacy in every stage of a woman's life

Intimacy is a beautiful journey that grows with us as we age. Whether you're in your early 20s or over 50, each stage of life brings new challenges and opportunities for connection, passion, and self-discovery. In this blog post, we'll explore the role of intimacy in the different life stages of women, from young adulthood to postmenopause, including the postpartum period. We'll provide insights into how intimacy develops at each stage and offer helpful "intimacy boosters" (tools, tips, and products) that can help deepen your connection with yourself and your partner. The goal: to offer you a warm, positive, and empowering perspective on intimate happiness, regardless of your age.

Intimacy boosters are our allies in this endeavor. These are products and tips specifically designed to make your love life more exciting, intimate, and intense, from stimulating gels to sensual massage tools. They can boost your confidence, increase excitement, and help you discover new sides of yourself and your partner. Let's take a look at how intimacy unfolds at each stage of life and what can help you get the most out of your love life at each stage.

The Twenties (21–30): Discovery and Self-Awareness

For many women, a phase of blossoming begins in their twenties Adulthood is a time of experimenting with relationships, sexuality, and your own desires. You discover who you are in bed and outside of it, often with a mix of adventurous moments and first loves. Many twentysomethings are freer and still exploring: perhaps you try casual dating, a "friends with benefits" relationship, or the occasional one-night stand. That may sound exciting and carefree, but did you know that research shows that both men and women can sometimes feel empty or insecure after a casual hookup? Nearly half of women reported feeling uncomfortable (a quarter for men). This demonstrates the importance of emotional connection, even in this experimental phase.

Yet, your twenties are above all about fun and self-awareness. You get to know your body, discover what gives you pleasure, and slowly build confidence in your sexuality. Communication is key: by being open about what you enjoy, you lay the foundation for healthy intimacy. Dare to explore, both solo and with a partner, but stay true to your own boundaries and intuition.

Intimacy Boosters for Twenty-Somethings : This is the ideal stage of life to playfully experiment with tools that enhance your pleasure and help you discover what works for you. Some ideas:

• Sensual massage oil or candle : Perfect for enhancing intimacy with your partner through touch and relaxation. A deliciously fragrant massage oil from our collection can foster greater connection and trust.

• First vibrator or toy : More and more young women are treating themselves to a high-quality vibrator or other sex toy to explore their bodies. Used solo or together, this can intensify your orgasms and teach you what you like—an investment in self-knowledge and pleasure!

• Playful, provocative lingerie : Feeling sexy boosts your confidence in bed. Beautiful lingerie or a daring set from our webshop can give you that extra touch, making you feel irresistible to yourself and your partner.

These tools make intimacy more exciting and help you discover new sensations, all at your own pace.

Remember: your twenties are about learning and enjoying life. Build a foundation of openness and positivity that will guide the rest of your intimate life.

Thirties (30s–40s): Connection, Change, and Parenthood

Your thirties often bring changes to your intimate life. Many women find a steady partner around this age and build a stable relationship. Sex is often exciting and frequent in the early stages of a relationship; research shows that people in their thirties even have the highest frequency of sex of all ages. You get to know each other well, perhaps move in together, and if you want to have children, sex sometimes becomes a purposeful part of trying to conceive.

Yet, challenges can also arise. Career, household chores, and the hustle and bustle of everyday life demand energy, and many couples are also having children. Parenthood can temporarily reduce your time and desire for sex: sleepless nights, diapers, and fatigue can put a damper on love life. This is perfectly normal. It's important to realize that the decline in passion doesn't mean intimacy disappears; it simply takes on a different form. Emotional closeness, mutual support, and small acts of affection (a hug, a kiss) become especially valuable during this phase. Try to consciously make time for each other, even if it's just one evening a week, to be lovers again instead of just parents.

Intimacy after pregnancy: slowly resuming and rediscovering each other

Recovering from childbirth takes time, so take that time for intimacy as well. Communication, patience, and gentleness with yourself and each other will allow the spark to grow again.

A special period within this phase is immediately after pregnancy and childbirth. Your body has accomplished something wonderful, but it has also changed and needs to recover. It's perfectly normal to have a decreased desire for sex in the first weeks or months after giving birth. Doctors recommend waiting at least six weeks after giving birth before having sex, but many women wait longer until they're truly ready. And even after the body has recovered, hormones and emotions play a role: during breastfeeding, your estrogen levels can be lower, causing vaginal dryness and decreased libido. Furthermore, fatigue and adjusting to your new role as a mother can mean that intimacy isn't at the top of your list—perfectly fine.

It's important to keep talking to your partner about your feelings and boundaries. Build intimacy back up slowly. For example, start with cuddling, kissing, or massage to rekindle closeness without immediately resorting to full-blown sex. When you're both ready to have sex again, take your time and don't force anything. Many women fear pain the first time after giving birth. A few tips to make it more pleasant: use plenty of lubricant, as your natural lubrication may be reduced. , and choose positions where you have control (for example, you on top), so you can determine the pace and depth yourself . And do you find that penetration doesn't feel good? Feel free to stop and try other ways to be intimate. Intimacy is more than just sex. Laughing together, caressing each other, sharing a warm bath; these are steps back to feeling connected.

Intimacy Boosters for Thirty-Somethings : In this hectic but beautiful phase, small tools can make a big difference in keeping intimacy alive:

• Lubricant & conditioning gel : A good lubricant (e.g., water-based and skin-friendly) is essential, especially after childbirth or when stressed. It prevents painful dryness and makes sex more comfortable, so you can relax and enjoy each other's company again.

• Erotic games or dice : To break the routine and bring back the fun. A set of erotic playing cards, dice with challenges, or a challenging couples game can make you laugh and let you try new things, without the pressure.

• Massage candle or relaxation kit : Combat stress and fatigue by consciously relaxing together. With a luxurious massage candle (which turns into warm oil) or a wellness kit, you can create a spa moment at home. This strengthens emotional intimacy and trust, which are the foundation for good sex.

• Lingerie or role reversal: Playful lingerie or role-playing can also be very effective during this phase. For example, an elegant outfit that makes you feel like a woman again instead of just "mom," or a daring costume to live out a fantasy together. Such boosters increase self-confidence and bring excitement and playfulness back into a long-term relationship.

Give yourself and your partner time to rediscover each other after major changes. Intimacy in your thirties revolves around creativity and communication. The fire is there, you just need to occasionally find new wood together to keep it burning.

Forties (40–50): Rediscovery and Balance

By the time you're in your forties, you're often feeling more confident. You have a better sense of what you want and who you are, including sexually. Many women experience a stronger sense of self around the age of forty and are more comfortable expressing their desires. When the children are older or the family is running more smoothly, there's also room for couples to reconnect on a deeper level. This can be a time of rediscovery: finally enjoying date nights again, new hobbies together, or simply time for yourself to nurture your sensuality. Some women even report their most satisfying sexual experiences during this stage of life, as they feel more confident and less stressed about things like finances or young children.

However, physical changes also begin in our forties. Hormonal fluctuations (the lead-up to menopause, or perimenopause) can occur. In both men and women, testosterone levels gradually decline from around age 40, which can lead to a slow decline in libido. You might notice that spontaneous "desire for sex" is slightly less common. This is normal and not a cause for concern; intimacy is now more about quality than quantity. The advantage of being over forty is wisdom: you know each other's bodies inside and out and have built a deep emotional bond. Communication and variety are your best friends to keep intimacy alive. Talk about your fantasies or things you've always wanted to try. By introducing new impulses, you prevent intimacy from going on autopilot .

It's also important to pay attention to the emotional side of intimacy. In this phase of life, many women have multiple roles: mother, partner, daughter of aging parents, and professional, and the mental pressure can be high. Even switching from those responsibilities to your sensual self can be difficult. So schedule moments for intimacy, just as you would schedule other important appointments. It might not sound spontaneous, but a planned date can actually be something to look forward to and mentally prepare for. For example, you could declare every Friday night your regular quality time .

Intimacy Boosters for Forty-Somethings : What can help rediscover and maintain balance intimacy during this phase?

• Stimulating gels or creams : If arousal isn't as natural, there are gels that provide a tingling or warming effect on intimate areas. These stimulants can increase blood flow and provide additional sensations, helping to boost desire.

• Pheromone perfume : A subtle yet powerful attraction booster. A few sprays of pheromone perfume (for him or her) can add an exciting undertone to your time together. The thought of wearing something "naughty" can already boost your confidence and create playful vibes.

• New toys for couples: Try a sex toy designed for couples, such as a cock ring with a vibrator or a vibrating massager for intercourse. Trying something new together can lead to lots of laughter and enjoyment; it breaks the routine and strengthens the bond by sharing a discovery.

Your forties are about balancing familiarity and innovation. You have a history together, but the future still offers plenty of opportunities for growth in your sex life. With openness and a few well-chosen tools, you can transform this phase into a second youth full of passion, now with the benefit of experience and emotional depth.

The 1950s (50s–60s): Intimacy in Bloom after Menopause

A woman's fifties are often characterized by menopause and the period afterward. Hormonal changes, such as declining estrogen and progesterone levels, cause physical symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats, and yes, even things like vaginal dryness or difficulty reaching climax. It's not surprising if your libido dips; about two out of three women report experiencing a decreased desire for sex after menopause. But don't let anyone tell you this is the end of the line on intimacy! According to sexologists, the idea that women over 50 no longer have a desire for sex is a myth. For the majority of women, only minor physical changes occur that pose few problems for their sex life. In fact, if you had a satisfying sex life before menopause, chances are good that it will continue afterward.

The key after menopause is to adjust and take your time. Because your body produces less estrogen, you no longer automatically become lubricated or aroused quickly, meaning good foreplay becomes more important than ever. In fact, it's only now that it becomes noticeable if a woman isn't sufficiently aroused during sex, precisely because in the past, hormones often masked this. So take your time with intimacy: explore each other's bodies calmly, focus on kissing, caressing, oral sex, or whatever you find pleasurable to get in the mood. Use aids like lubricants or warming gels to accommodate the physical changes. And very importantly: keep communicating. You might need different stimulation than before, or prefer a different pace. Discuss this openly with your partner, without shame, and together you'll shape a new chapter in your love life.

It's striking that many women in their fifties experience a kind of second flush of energy. Once menopause is behind them and there are no more worries about contraception or menstruation, some feel liberated and even have a heightened desire for sex. Sexologists sometimes jokingly call these women "reborn sex freaks," not because of the term "freak," but to indicate that they feel reborn in their sexuality. The explanation is interesting: after menopause, your testosterone (the hormone that also arouses sexual desire) is indeed lower in absolute terms, but its effects are less inhibited by female hormones. In other words, the little testosterone you do have can flow more freely, and as a result, you can actually feel more alive in terms of desire. Combine that with potentially more free time (children out of the house, slightly less work pressure approaching retirement), and you have a recipe for high-quality intimacy.

Love and intimacy know no age limit. Many couples over 50 discover a new depth and joy in their time together, especially when they have more time and peace for each other.

Did you know that research in the US showed that almost three-quarters of 57-64 year-olds are still sexually active? So intimacy remains important and present, provided you stay healthy and have a good partner. It might change—less acrobatics and spontaneity, more tenderness and attention—but the pleasure can be just as good, or even greater, than before. And remember: there's no obligation. Everyone experiences this stage of life differently. It's about what makes you happy and what suits you and your potential partner. Empowerment in your fifties means choosing what feels good, whether that's regular passionate nights or cozy evenings hand in hand.

Intimacy boosters for people in their fifties: To support your body and mind and enjoy this phase even more, consider:

• Lubricants & vaginal care: A must-have for comfortable sex. Choose a lubricant specifically designed for long-lasting hydration or a vaginal moisturizing gel. This prevents pain and enhances pleasure when natural lubrication decreases.

• Stimulating creams or orgasmic gels: There are orgasm creams that promote blood flow to the clitoris or vagina, thus facilitating or intensifying orgasm. For example, a clitoris-stimulating gel that provides warmth or a tingling sensation can provide the extra push you need if you find climaxing more difficult than before.

• Vibrator for mutual pleasure : At this stage, a high-quality vibrator can be invaluable. Consider a double vibrator that stimulates both the clitoris and penetration, or a Tarzan/ vibrating egg for solo play if you're single. For couples, a vibrator can be helpful if, for example, the man is experiencing erectile problems or things are slowing down, allowing you to still reach climax together.

• Soft bondage or new experiences : Now that you have the time and no longer have small children at home, you can try out fantasies you may have always tucked away. Soft BDSM elements like a satin blindfold, soft wrist cuffs, or a feather plume can add exciting new dimensions in complete safety and confidence. It's all about experiencing something new together that keeps your curiosity alive.

Finally, laugh together and have fun! Intimacy doesn't have to be perfect or deadly serious. In every stage of life, but especially in the later stages, humor is a great glue. Is something not working or feels awkward? Laugh about it and try something different. You've already been through so much; intimacy is the icing on the cake, not a "have to," but a "can do."